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Another friend in bookselling recently made a comment on her
blog
that there are just too many memoirs being published. I tend to agree.
She also went on to note that there are certainly exceptions to this
rule. Again, I tend to agree. The problem with most memoirs is that the
authors either don't have a good enough story to tell or they're not
skilled enough to tell it well. And don't even get me started on
celebrity memoirs (Steve Martin's
Born Standing Up being an exception to any rule. That man is a genius.).
So when I first saw the bound galley of Michael Hainey's
After Seeing Friends,
I was inclined to dismiss it. Unknown author. Nondescript title. I
almost put it in the communal staff kitchen where all of the other
unwanted galleys go, but then I saw who sent it to me: Wendy Sheanin,
the adult marketing director at Simon & Schuster, whose tastes I
trust. And she'd tucked a handwritten note inside of the first page.
I'm a sucker for a handwritten note. And
then I see an envelope
hand-addressed to me tucked into the middle of the book. Turns out that
unknown-to-me Mr. Hainey is the deputy editor at GQ magazine and he's
written me a note by hand on his letterpress stationery (I'm also a
sucker for letterpress anything).
Naturally,
After Seeing Friends
made it into my tote to take home at the end of the day. Luckily for
me, Mr. Hainey is possessed of a writing gift AND an interesting story
to tell. By the end of the first chapter I had dog-eared about half a
dozen pages. That pattern continued throughout the book. The GoodReads
summary begins: "Michael Hainey had just
turned six when his uncle knocked on his family’s back door one morning
with the tragic news: Bob Hainey, Michael’s father, was found alone near
his car on Chicago’s North Side, dead, of an apparent heart attack."
But
was that the entire truth? Various obituaries in the city mention that
the elder Hainey had died "after visiting friends," but who were these
friends, and why didn't they attend the funeral? It is only when Michael
has attained his father's age when he died that he decides to bring his
full investigative journalism skills to bear to inquire into the
circumstances surrounding his father's death. In Michael Hainey's search
for what really happened the night his father died, it's not the
25-year-old cold trail so much as the stymying efforts of his father's
former friends and colleagues that nearly prevent the story coming to
full light.
Hainey travels from New York to the midwest
and back so many times that I lost count, tracking down leads not only
in Chicagoland, but in Nebraska, Iowa, Indiana, and many points in
between. Along the way, the reader gets a front-row show to the golden
age of Chicagoland journalism: old school, hard core, and with a code of
honor that makes the Mafia look like they're merely playing at it.
Eventually
Hainey does get the information he's after, and his main reward is that
in losing his lifelong idea of what his father was, he is lucky enough
as an adult to truly know his mother; the facade she maintains for her
children's sake finally crumbles. For me, though, the real turning point
of the story is when he reconnects with his cousin and older brother,
and then later attends what would have been his father's 50th high
school reunion, where he comes to know his father and where he himself
fits within the generations of Hainey family. While Hainey's is a very
specific and intimate story, there's an element of the universal
permeating his quest: how can we know ourselves if we don't know where
we come from? How can we know ourselves if we don't consider our impact
on the next generation?
If you are interested in the nature of memory and how it intertwines with history, do yourself a favor and read this book.
Some of the passages I enjoyed:
On
visiting his grandmother in the nursing home: "I gave her a chocolate
cream. She raises it to her mouth. A tongue emerges, takes the candy.
Like a tortoise I saw at the zoo. She bites, almost in slow motion,
chews so slowly I swear I can feel her tasting it ."
A
description of Chicagoland as America's meat processing capital: "This
was the land of Swift, the kingdom of Armour. It was the beauty of the
Industrial Revolution's assembly line turned inside out. Chicago as the
disassembly line. Chicago--how fast and how efficiently as creature
could be reduced. Rendered. Broken down."
A terrible
truth, laid bare, when he and his brother are told about their father's
death: "In that moment I think only one thing: how excited I am. Because
my whole life up until then, my bother has never cried. Whenever I have
cried, he's always teased me, told me I was a baby. I point at him and
start to laugh and I say, 'Cry-baby! Cry-baby!' "
"So
often I wonder--Do all brothers end up at Kitty Hawk? Flipping a coin to
write history. One will fly. The other stands slack-jawed with awe.
Maybe chasing his brother. The wind in his face now. The wind that lifts
his brother."
~Emily